We all have patterns of behavior that show up when “troublesome” emotions like anger, or disappointment arise. If you’ve noticed your reactions and thought “Wow I could’ve handled that better” – that’s a huge step in the right direction. While those patterns may have worked for you in the past, that doesn’t mean they still work. Just noticing this puts you in a position of building an important skill – knowing when to let go of something that no longer serves you. From here you can exercise your emotional intelligence muscles and look for ways to tweak your patterns, developing new ways to show up in the world that are more aligned with who you are now, today.